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Not only is punishment for corporal punishment, and in addition to slaps, words can cause years of pain. A dozen sentences you never tell your kid, even if you hear them daily!

Words can also do


1. It will be a thank you!

This is often the case with annuals when they have something in their hands that the adult does not think is something that is dangerous, dirty, or doing something they should not be allowed to do. Physical violence, the purpose of enlightening pain, is to scare the victim well enough, to be able to speak of the blood before it has enough deterrent effect. beating and displaying the beating It is also a low-impact, maladaptive practice that attempts to put into the system at a young age, which is humiliating and poorly effective. A sign of inertia, inexperience: "I can't think of a better solution, then I'll hit you!"

2. You are wrong!

Perhaps not to mention, they are so blatantly damaging and superfluous that such negative ratings. In addition, they begin to say this at an age, usually between the ages of two and two, when they do not understand it, since the concept of bad is quite complicated, the I know-I don't know, interesting, exploratory-boring conceptual equivalents of concepts.However, if you often hear them, some of them are exciting, interesting and adult-minded behaviors will be associated with the "bad" concept. Was that your goal?

3. Mom won't love you doing this again!

The Emotional blackmail on the one hand, it is an unethical tool and, on the other hand, adds to the array of blank threats that do not contain currency content. After all, most parents don't even think for a minute that they won't love their baby again if they put their neighbor's hair back on. Your parenting relationship is based on unconditional love. But a little kid takes what he hears seriously you can cause him great anxiety with such statements.

4. If you love, you don't do it!

A bit of a twist on the "mother won't love" statement quoted in the previous paragraph, which is often said to be bigger cats, is just the same kind of blackmail. There's a whole little philosophy of life hiding behind it that assumes the child wants everything to show love the parent, and even his expected duty, as he must also make his own contribution to the love of the family members. love works on a emotional basis, the different condemned behaviors, and the deeds, are usually based on completely different grounds: the child makes it because it fulfills an exciting, interesting, satisfying need, gives something to be satisfied. That is, the child does something that the parent does not like, but it does not prevent the child from wanting the parent.

5. If you don't stop, you'll never be more…

We have been raised so many times in our indignation, in our helpless dies! What's going on? After all, no one could say that anyone would have bought into this threat, and he would never have taken the baby to the playground anymore. The efféle Empty threats indeed, the consequences are rendering the parent uncomfortable. The child learns exactly the opposite of what your goal was.

6. You are just like your father / mother!

If the relationship between the parents has deteriorated, they may be in the will or they have been lost, unfortunately this poisonous phrase is often heard. It should be assumed that the child might love another parent in the same way no also the relationship becomes fatal, therefore, in what sense it hurts such a statement. In addition to this sentence, you will overload the relationship, blur the person with the parody, draw parallels between them, and make them responsible. Try to avoid this and make the situation even worse by making the child responsible for something he or she is just suffering from.

7. I was very disappointed in you!

As time goes by, the sweet baby, alive, becomes a schoolboy. And this is the beginning of a whole series of requirements and requirements. No matter how hard it is, try to insist on the role of parent support and securityand don't do your hair! Of course, you have the right to be disappointed with a child's performance, but it is better that you do not express this in an honorable and humiliating way, and that you adjust your expectations to your abilities, your specific situation, you discuss whether you need to change anything at all, or you have to make sure your child is not the best at everything.

8. You are too lazy / stupid / stupid for that too!

It is even a bit more poignant than the statement about parent disappointment, as it usually does. THE "for that too"indicates that child really is total bankruptcystupid, unsuitable for the simplest of tasks. If it's really that bad, you're probably making the mistake: you should have been aware of the need for personal development right before, perhaps from a young age. Are you an exclusive parent? Of course, you are annoyed if you have bankruptcy on what seems to be great evidence.

9. I will do everything for you, and I will get nothing from you in exchange!

with this you call into question the love of your parents. You feel like you have to remember all the sacrifices you made for your childhood. According to them, it was a sacrifice, not made out of love and affection, but in the hope of reward, as a business transaction.nt. And your business partner now doesn't want to pay or pay and not pay as much as you want. Beware, you can get really caught up in these kinds of measures!

10. While you are living in my house, while you are eating my bread…

The last desperate parent is handed over in the verbal battle with his adolescent. He also chides the child for service and, if not otherwise, wants to obey it by referring to it. Maybe it will. But unfortunately, you pay the price by breaking something irreparably in your relationship. With this, the level of employer-employee relationship you break the parent-child relationship.If you feel something like this comes out to you, talk to the parents of other teens first to see what's going on with them You may also be interested in:
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